What Men and Women Truly Want

What are we looking for? In ourselves? In each other? In relationships? I have thought about this over and over. Why is it so difficult to connect with each other? To make a marriage work? To see eye to eye and connect on a level more than purely physical?
It seems that few people find success for the long term.
I have read numerous books on the subject lately, self-help books so to speak, but truly just books on observation of human behavior and how we treat one another. As I struggled with a conclusion of my own, although as clear as it is, I received an email from a dear friend with the summation of what I had been struggling with through my reading and self-observation:

"I have thought about what men and women look for in each
other.  I think all humans search for peace.  We search for sanctuary.
Men think that we can get it, achieve it by building it.  In part,
anyway, because even if we build it, it is worthless on its own.
Women are the piece that we cannot build, no matter how hard we try.

The part that I think I realized is that we think women want that same
thing.  We don't think that what women want is within us, but in what
we can do.  If women have a problem, we want to fix it.  We do that
because we think that if that problem is solved, you will have peace,
and then maybe that will bring us peace.  Sometimes that can work, but
to me, it seems fleeting.

What we have real trouble understanding is that you want a companion.
Maybe we even understand that, but are afraid we don't measure
up...maybe because we can't build the sanctuary (our conception of it,
anyway), give you the things we want to, etc.  But what we miss, is
that by being present, listening, truly listening, opening our hearts,
telling you we love you and just want to be with you, that is the
sanctuary we could provide, and the one that you truly seek."
David Steinle

This is as true (and brilliant) a statement as I believe I have ever read and believe in 100%.
We all strive for peace.
We all strive for love.
We exist, men and women, on two completely different planes of beliefs about what that means.
Men build.
Women nurture.
To exist with one another is as easy as understanding these two simple ideas.
To exist without one another is almost impossible.
To understand one another, so complex, yet so clear, almost makes us as human beings, again, as miniscule as the smallest ant, or inane creature which walks the earth. Sometimes the most simple appears as the most complex, only because we make it so. Our ego's will not have us believe that we exist only to provide and understand each other and give love. To evolve. To procreate.
Men want to fix everything. This is how they are built.
Women want to move along the earth with someone, someone that hears them breathe.
Easy?
Not for us.

Sometimes nothing needs to be fixed, only acknowledged.