Geeks who drink trivia, or yet one more reason to drink on a Sunday

I have been attending trivia at Cap City Tavern on Tuesday nights for quite a while. It's ok. Good crowd. Great drink specials. The food "meh", but you can't have everything right?

Well, it just got a bit mundane.

The same groups every week. So tired of beer and bar food.

Then Sunday nights at Jonesy's opened up. First - you gotta love this place. It's a great, hip little joint with plenty of space for trivia.

Pool tables and darts on one side and a full bar and restaurant with amazing food. Truffle fries...know what I'm saying? The owner, Leigh is hands on and very into making her clients feel at home.

And now trivia on Sunday nights. Love it!

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A fun group of friends meet to challenge each other to the most random trivia of the new world, while sharing good food and drinks. $2 beers - good bottled microbrews, not shitty domestic tap brews. I have never had so many laughs and such a great time in a really long time.

I'm a lucky girl...with funny, funny friends!

Chivalry

Chivalry is not dead, it's just not required anymore.
This statement by Steve Harvey, comedian, now apparently relationship expert. As much as I agree with this statement, it occured to me, what makes him an expert, and worthy of a spot on Oprah? He wrote a book.
And....
There were a lot of nuggets of information, but nothing that hasn't been said before. He is funny. I give him that. He is married and successful at it. I give him that. But, what does this change?
They talked about having a list. I have a list.
Steve talked about real men - I know about real men, I ranted on this topic last week. Did he say where to find any real men? Did he even acknowledge that they aren't unicorns?
Dating has become like shopping to me. I've done it before. I hate the mall. Catalogs don't always give you the right size or color. It's expensive. So, I don't do it if I don't have to.
To think that every time I go to the mall, I can't find parking, I'm surrounded by pretentious, self absorbed, shop-aholics, I can rarely (if ever) find what I'm looking for, and the mall is usually closing soon, no matter what time I arrive.
At least with dating there is usually food involved.
Snacks tend to make things better.
Back to chivalry - Steve Harvey said some of the same things that I said, we don't require that men treat us with respect, as a generation. I don't know when this happened, but the whole concept of "hanging out" has ruined dating for women who respect themselves. When did we let men off the hook? Stop requiring a man to ask us politely what we need, or want?
Pulling out a chair or opening a door isn't like asking to get married - it's just common courtesy.

When did we stop requiring common courtesy's of each other?

Skatepark Culture

I have been at the Denver skatepark all week. My son has decided he is going to be a Pro skateboarder, so we must go practice. One of my biggest fears was the influence the older kids who take over the park after lunch time would have on the younger kids. The language is foul at times. Their clothes hang down, showing their underwear. The redbull and Monster drink cans litter the edges of the park (which I am sure are making these kids more stupid by the second). All these things which don't scream "role model" to me influence my child's experience.

Funny enough - the more time I spend there, the more I notice the overwhelming culture of hierarchy. The older kids look out for the younger one's. There is a constant observance of "right of way", and "turn taking". The older kids are very aware of the younger one's and take care of their personal space. They offer advice and speak to them with care and concern. It is rare to see aggressive or boorish behavior intimidating the smaller kids who are trying to keep up with their older mentors.

This area is highly un-monitored by adult supervision. There are a few parents with small children, but hundreds of unsupervised teens on a daily basis and truly a potential seedy-teen area. But, it's not. I haven't checked out the park at night, so I'm sure the element is a bit different, and I have seen kids smoking and cursing during the day. Overall the vibe is skate - practice, show off your talent - Be you!
It is a distinct and self monitoring culture of kids who all enjoy the same activities and have respect for each other and their area.

Real Men

Now that I've talked shit on boys - I'm going to tell you about Real Men.
Real men do hold doors.
Real men don't have excuses.
Real men pick you up for dates.
Real men have careers.
Real men care about your opinion.
Real men don't text.
Real men don't date little girls.
Real men appreciate real women.
Real men cook.
Real men try.
Real men are well rounded.
Real men have self control.
Real men remember important stuff.
Real men have boundaries.
Real men don't let their friends talk them into anything stupid.
Real men don't care about what boys think.

Here's to real men!

Please comment if you have something to add that I missed.

The downfall of dating in our modern society

Today over lunch the topic of dating - men vs boys, came up and spun our table into a discussion of basic home training...or "I guess yo mama didn't teach you any better than that".
We have seen the breakdown of societal manners increase over the past twenty years. Men no longer hold doors, and lay their coats on the street so women don't get splashed. This actually encouraged by all the "equal rights for women", who then wonder why they can't get a date. Hmmmm. But, these small acts of courtesy are just the tip of the iceberg.
Young guys want to split the tab. They want you to buy them beers. They want to "hang out".
Let me break it down.
I do not hang out with men I want to date.
I do not go on dates with "dudes" who can't pick up a phone and ask me out. I don't date guys that "meow" at me.
And if we are "hanging out", don't try to get in my pants, because I don't have sex with dudes I'm hanging out with. Wanna treat me like your buddy. You got it. Are you fucking your buddies? Didn't think so. Grow up dumbasses!
Women - stop tolerating this behavior.
If the guy you like can't ask you out - guess what?
If the guy you want to spend time with only has time for his buddies - guess what?
If a guy you used to hook up with calls you a year later and says "can I come over" - say "for what - where have you been the last 365 days - oh with your girlfriend you failed to mention."
Guess what?
If the guy you like only calls you after the bar - guess fucking what?
Next time your phone vibrates because some douche is texting you at 1a - text back "Not interested". 'Cause are you really? Interested in being used...again? Say it outloud. Sack up girlfriend. You don't have to be nice to someone that has no respect for you.

I see young boys texting my teen daughter "what's up". What does this mean? Do you wish to have a conversation with my daughter, but are too lazy and too trifling to pick up a phone and actually dial the 10 digits. Perhaps, you are too uninteresting and unintelligent to speak on any topic outside of "what's up". Regardless, when the day comes that you decide to drive a car and pull up to my house - if you don't get out and come inside and respectfully ask permission to take my daughter out on a date - you will NEVER have the privilege of her company. Don't text from the car. Don't honk. Don't think about treating my daughter with any less respect than the beautiful, young lady she is, or you are asking to get embarrased on my front lawn.
I'm tired of double standards - and for you women who keep allowing this behavior to continue - you're getting what you ask for. Don't you deserve better? I do. My daughter does.
Stop tolerating bullshit and it will cease to exist.

Soccer Season has arrived

March is here and so is Soccer.

My daughter is not only playing competitive soccer this seaon, but she made her school team as well, so we have 4 days of practice, 2 game days, and I am starting to feel like a taxi service.

But, it's so worth it - these girls are great. Game 1 tied up 1-1, a great start to the season with two well matched teams that really gave their all.

and it's Friday again

courtesy Rachel Weaver

Long lost friends and death threats in tropical paradise

Facebook is quite the retriever of lost memories.
I had an old friend from college (that I have literally not seen or heard from since graduation)contact me today via facebook. I was almost afraid to answer. I mean 20 years has gone by.
We were not bff's then, but he was a great guy. I remember that quite well.
A boyfriend of a good girlfriend - this was a funny guy that I remember tossing us a lot of laughs during college. Plus he had tons of single male friends. I remember this as well.
We actually went on vacation together.
How do you not stay connected to people you go on vacation with? This wasn't like - 20 of us went to Cancun for spring break. A small group of 5 of us went to Jamaica, and our lives were threatened, after we crashed the rental car the 1st day we drove it (on the opposite side of the road), and the rental agency did not like the fact we had it repaired ourselves. We were told straight up - you will pay additional money or they will never find your bodies. Nice.
Welcome to Jamaica (this was my last visit).
And this after we were placed in shithole shanty, which looked like a dog fighting ring, inside a chicken coop(and it wasn't cheap). I had to argue for our money back when we arrived and realized we were being jacked. I mean this was a memorable vacation.
We finally got a great house with a gardner and maid (which is what we paid for). Poolside for 7 days; we drank and laughed and slept under fans in a tropical heat. "Cock - a - doodle - doo" at sunrise. It was great.
This one memory from a guy I haven't seen in 20 years who found me on facebook.