Toxicity and the Law of Relativity

Toxic: adjective
of or relating to or caused by a toxin or poison; "suffering from exposure to toxic substances" (via dictionary.com)

I have come to the realization in life that everyone is not pre-disposed to functioning at the same level of maturity, relationship, communication skills or pleasantness. This may seem simple, but when choosing friends it is not apparent in matching qualities of like- persons until issues surface. All relationships have issues. What I have found makes or breaks relationships is the way issues are handled, and the resulting growth or breakdown of said relationship.

I have known for 30 years or so that toxic people are not healthy and do not make for fruitful relationships. What defines toxicity? The actual level of toxic behavior (metaphorically) in relationship which causes one to feel poisoned or overexposed to deadly substances. This is where the theory of relativity enters.

A Special Theory of Relativity, was published in 1905 and it overthrew common sense perceptions and interpretations of space and time. The theory states that relative to the observer, both space and time are altered near the speed of light -- distances appear to stretch and clocks tick more slowly. (via Ask.com)

Enter personal research: Space and time are relative to who is living in the time at each precise moment. ie A group of friends goes out together for drinks. Friend A drinks at a rate of 1 cocktail per 20 minutes. Friend B drinks at a rate of 2 cocktails per hour, and Friend C chooses not to drink as they have been labeled designated driver.

Hour 1: All 3 Friends enter the atmosphere at the same relative rate of exposure. All friends speak at the same level. All friends have similar levels of competancy and comprehension.

Hour 2: Friend 1 has slowed at a rate = to their consumption of alcohol. Friends 1's speech is a bit slower, induced by random bouts of laughter. Friend 2's comprehension level is lagging and physical funtions are heightened. Friend 3 remains at the same level of competancy as in hour 1.

Hour 3: Friend 1 has reached a somewhat deluded p.o.v. and comprehension skills are below average at best. Friend 2 has a delayed sense of space and time, really having no concept of space or time or the fact that Friend 3 is agitated as Friend 3 is at the same level of competancy as in Hour 1, and functionally now all 3 Friends are at differing levels of Relative space and time for the purposes of this experiment.

For all intense purposes Friend 1 has a high level of toxicity imposed by the amount of alcohol directly consumed and is unaware of his relative interpersonal relationship with Friend 2 and Friend 3 because Friend 1 oblivious to the rest of the world.
Friend 2 has a lower level of toxicity based on direct consumption of alcohol, but a higher level of toxicity as a direct result of the relationship between Friend 1 and Friend 3 which has escalated due to the now heightened level of toxicity Friend 3 is experiencing directly resulting from the actions and extreme levels of alcohol toxcity of Friend 1.

Here's the catch: All three Friends have no perception or understanding of each of the other's experience as they are only functionally aware of their own experience. Yet, out of their own self-absorbtion, relative to human nature, each feels the innate need to judge and label each Friends behaviors (outside of their own) and heightened by their levels of toxicity.

Moral of the story: Before judging the toxicity around you, perhaps look at your own inner toxicity and determine the rate of exposure to those around you.